Tame the Shame: Money, Relationships, and Self-Empathy

February 14, 2022

In this episode of MoneyBetter, we’re talking about money, shame, and the impact both can have on our relationships with others. Lots of people are struggling with shame around money, whether that’s shame about past choices or trying to live a lifestyle that looks good to others but isn’t one we can afford to sustain. Because we’re afraid to address that shame, we end up operating blindly and making financial mistakes that could impact our future. Our host Caitlin Moore leads the discussion with our guests to figure out how to identify internal and external factors, make more conscious decisions about spending as it relates to our values, and set boundaries within your social circle.

MoneyBetter episode highlights:

  • “Ten seconds of vulnerability is all it takes… eases you and starts the conversation.”
  • “You’re using hindsight to shame your past self. That’s literally not part of the equation at all.”
  • “My worth as a human is not tied to my salary, the car I drive, the neighborhood I live in. Society may tell me that, but it’s not true, and that’s not what I believe is true about us as humans.”

More about shame and money:


Caitlin watched the 20/20 episode about Anna Sorokin aka Anna Delvey. https://abc.com/shows/2020/episode-guide/2021-10/01-the-sinfluencer-of-soho 

Learn more here: https://www.thecut.com/2018/05/how-anna-delvey-tricked-new-york.html

And check out the show on Netflix: https://www.netflix.com/title/81008305

Kate’s dream American Girl doll memorabilia includes a lot of Felicity — particularly her Christmas dress (one for the doll and a matching one for her) and all of Felicity’s furniture — as well as the American Girl of Today birthday party stuff, including the grill, patio furniture, and sheet cake; the American Girl of Today rollerblades; and the American Girl of Today Hanukkah outfit. And who could forget the doll travel set?

Where Caitlin spends all of her coffee money: Scooters and The Mill.

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Have a question for one of our guests? Reach out!

Sam Dolezal, UBT

Kate Stous, UBT

Camille Sass, Revive Counseling LLC and Summit Equine Therapy LLC

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